I'm looking for a reliable app that can limit the time I use my daughter's phone.
I just want the phone to switch off after 2 hours and to no longer be able to use the apps. Only phone and contacts should of course not be blocked in an emergency.
Unfortunately I haven't found anything that works really reliably so far. Family Link is the biggest… Not working and collecting data; the internal function of the digital balance to limit the cell phone doesn't really help either and TimeLimit, which sounds good, is not suitable for Huawei (is even explicitly mentioned by the manufacturer) and my daughter (unfortunately) has a Huawei.
Does anyone know a good app? Really only 2 hours of usage time for the entire mobile phone, then only phone (no messages (WhatsApp, Facebook, etc.) possible.
To be honest - I would never use that. Have the cell phone given to you after 2 hours or just give it to her for 2 hours.
for emergencies.
Which one should that be?
Then why a smartphone if she shouldn't use it. An old flip phone would have done for an "emergency". If you don't want your child to use a smartphone, don't give them one. Try making arrangements.
How about trust instead of control?
I've been dealing with the topic for a long time and this blocking and controlling is psychologically the worst thing you can do.
This also only leads to the children looking for a way to bypass the barrier. All you have to do is look here on the platform. There are endless questions about how to get around parental locks. Some borrow or buy new cell phones and so on. This leads to an arms race and is almost reminiscent of war…
Why do you want to limit that?
Explain this to her and make her aware of the dangers online. Then say you don't want to control it and trust her to stick to the 2h.
Of course, if she doesn't, you have to show her that through punishment. But don't just take the phone away from her. That leads to nothing again. Tell her that you are disappointed and that you thought you could give her so much responsibility. If that happens again, you have to take the cell phone away from her for 1 day and then give it back to her and tell her to have one more try and stick with it this time, otherwise you will have to take it away longer.
That's why I just want a time limit and nothing more. I want her to be able to use her cell phone without me controlling it with Family Link or something. I just want her not to sit in front of that thing for hours.
No, she should have the cell phone all day and learn to organize the two hours over the day herself.
Emergency:
she is on the way and accident
Missed the bus and needs to be picked up
and so on, there can always be something that you have to make a short call
Well, limit or control. The rest stays the same. You restrict it and thereby destroy the relationship of trust. You might also have a look at this question:
Why shouldn't she sit in front of that thing for hours? Is there any reason for that except "I didn't do it before"?
No, she should have a cell phone and use it, but learn how to organize her time throughout the day. I just don't want her to sit in front of the cell phone for hours. I don't want to control them any further.
I see absolutely different. Checking is when you have a B. Can see what she is doing, which pages she is visiting… That is a HUGE difference compared to an exclusive time limit.
Why not spend hours in front of the cell phone? You only need to enter "cell phone child damage" in google and you will know.
Well, I don't know, my children came home without having to call - me too. Before there were cell phones, it had to work.
Buy her a simple cell phone for such cases.
I see absolutely different. Checking is when you have a B. Can see what she is doing, which pages she is visiting… That is a HUGE difference compared to an exclusive time limit.
Yes, that is already clear. It's definitely not the same! I meant the rest of my answer. It stays the same whether it is about control or limitation.
Why not spend hours in front of the cell phone? You only need to enter "cell phone child damage" in google and you will know.
Ok, then you have a good and understandable reason. You have to explain that to her and then she'll understand for sure. If you just limit that, she won't learn anything from it. She may get good at computer science while she learns how to bypass barriers, nothing more. A good relationship with the children is very important, as any psychologist will tell you. That's just about me.
You don't have to take my advice. I have no children myself and therefore only have theoretical knowledge, but this knowledge is based on the practical knowledge of others. A one-way relationship is even worse than sitting in front of the cell phone for hours.
Because of that yes:
It is important to talk to the children and to have a kind of democracy, not a dictatorship.
We have a good relationship and it's not about education, but about an app. And I think with only a time limit she can learn to spread the available time over the day.
But since I don't get any suggestions here, I say goodbye.
Okay, as you think. Is still your upbringing.
As long as your daughter sees it that way, everything is fine.
Then discuss it with her
